Ruined in a Good Way :: By Candy Austin

Psalm 34:18 “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”

Have you ever been so hurt by the ones who were supposed to love you the most to the point that it has ruined you socially? Have you tried telling others about your Emotional Pain, and instead of receiving some level of understanding, there was mainly unfeelingness in the form of Judgment, Criticism, and Admonishment? Has the trauma you endured caused you to have no choice but to retreat into your own safe cocoon? If this has happened to you, just know that you are not alone.

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No one should tell you how you are supposed to feel. No one should tell you when you are supposed to get over things. No one should dictate to you how you are to deal with your trauma because not everyone has the same coping mechanisms. PTSD is a real condition; it affects millions of people, and that is just here in America alone! Unfortunately, suffering from this plight is beyond debilitating in more ways than one can really imagine!

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Several years ago, I was asked to help a friend of a friend who ran a daycare inside her home. Basically, she needed to do some errands while the kids took their naps and asked for someone to be there to take care of the kids in case one of them woke up. Sadly, this particular toddler had PTSD from severe neglect and abandonment from his birth parents, but thankfully he was in a new home by that point. The babysitter explained that if this little boy were to wake up while I was there, he would wail incessantly until I could pick him up!

Basically, he needed to be held and coddled for most of the day during that trying time. Just hearing that this little boy was suffering from PTSD at his tender little age made my heart ache. Although I never really got to officially meet him because the kids slept well that day, still I never forgot that little boy’s heartbreaking situation. It makes one wonder how many other children the world over struggle with this type of Traumatic Aftermath in this fallen Devil’s playground.

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Apparently, from recent worldwide events such as Natural Disasters, ‘the Plan-demic,’ Terrorism, Corrupt Politics, Injustices, Persecution, Famine, Animal Die-offs, and the list could go on, people have been suffering in ranges from Bouts of Depression to All-out Suicide!

One contribution to such dissatisfaction in life can be directly linked to none other than our ‘Social-less’ Media and the recent Social Distancing Protocols. All of which has caused many to miss out on their normal everyday interactions with others and even lose some basic social skills. We can observe this just by going into a restaurant or a business and ascertaining, especially the younger generation, their not having or even displaying common courtesy or classic etiquette anymore! Gone are the days when good customer service was a thing. PTSD only helps to add another layer which just further aggravates this malady in these Last Days!

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In the past, I have shared about the Traumatic Events in my own life and the subsequent suffering of PTSD as a result, all of which still affects me even to this day! Not to mention the Spiritual Warfare we have been experiencing in our family within the last decade that has substantially traumatized my husband and me to the point where we now feel that we are ‘Ruined.’ Ruined in finding a church home, Ruined in allowing people in behind our protective wall, Ruined in trusting just about anyone… just overall Ruined!

On the flip side, we have come to realize that, in this Ruined State, we have also become Ruined to the ways of the world, Ruined to friendship with worldly people, and more importantly, Ruined to worldliness by having a closer relationship and walk with Jesus! One of which we more than likely would not have had were it not for all of the Trauma we have been through!

Kind of like the quote where it says, “Some people are so heavenly-minded that they are of no earthly good.” The fact of the matter is that when a Christian is ‘so heavenly-minded that their focus is on eternal things, they become ‘of more earthly good’ because they tend to want to affect people for Christ so that they can help to further His Kingdom!

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History is full of Christians who positively impacted the world. Their motivation was not simply the need for social reform; rather, they were compelled to do what they did by their strong faith in Jesus and their heavenly focus. It is the very fact that Christians are “heavenly-minded” that causes them to help others while spreading the life-changing truth of the gospel.

The Bible insists that Christians focus on heavenly things: “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:18). When Christians have their eyes set on Christ, they gain an eternal perspective, and they are of great “earthly good” as their faith impacts their lives and the lives of others (Colossians 3:2; Hebrews 12:1–3).

Scripture teaches that good deeds naturally follow when a person places faith in Jesus Christ (James 2:18). Christians serve the Lord and positively impact the world because of their hope of eternity with Him (1 Corinthians 15:58). True religion involves helping orphans and widows in their distress (James 1:27), doing to others as we would have them do to us (Luke 6:31), giving to those in need (Proverbs 19:17; Acts 20:35), dealing honestly in business (Leviticus 19:11), treating animals humanely (Proverbs 14:21), and proclaiming freedom to those who are enslaved by sin (Ephesians 1:7). A truly heavenly-minded Christian is one who lives out his or her faith in service to the Savior and who wants to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with God (Micah 6:8).

It is the earthly-minded who accomplish nothing of eternal value. People who are earthly-minded are of the world and seek after its desires, which are not from God (1 John 2:15). Being earthly-minded is short-sighted: “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever” (1 John 2:17). It is those who are focused on serving Christ and bringing Him glory who will make a lasting impact on earth and for eternity (see Matthew 6:19–21). – End Source

Therefore, whatever may come our way in this life that may perhaps ‘Ruin us,’ whether it be Mentally, Emotionally, Physically, Spiritually, or even Socially. The point of the matter is that this pain will either drive us towards Christ or away from Him! Ultimately, it is up to us to decide if we will allow this trauma to ‘Ruin us’ in a good way or in a bad way.

When we decide to run into the arms of Jesus, not only will we be given a Sense of Comfort and Solace, the Lord will also cause all things to work together for our good. While at the same time give us a Peace that surpasses all understanding! The alternative to this huge blessing is to deal with our ‘Ruined State’ without God’s Help and His Comforting Word. Umm… I do not know about you… but that does not sound like something that would be appealing in the very least!

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Answer: In Philippians 4:7, we have a wonderful promise: “The peace of God, which passes all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” It is important to note the context of this promise because that’s where we find the condition: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (verse 6). God’s peace is promised to guard those who pray—with thanksgiving—about everything. This peace will transcend our ability to understand it.

There are other gifts of God that are not fully comprehensible to us. The gift of salvation is “indescribable” (2 Corinthians 9:15). The complexity and wisdom of God’s plan is inscrutable (Isaiah 55:8–9). According to Ephesians 3:19, the love of Christ is something else so great we will never fully understand it. Likewise, human reasoning is incapable of fully comprehending the peace of God.

The believer who places his or her full confidence in a loving God and is thankful in every circumstance will possess a supernatural peace. An inner calm will dominate the heart. The faithful believer will know peace—his heart and mind are “guarded” by it—despite the tempest raging without. No one, especially those outside of Christ, will be able to fathom that peace. To most, it will remain a mystery how someone can be so serene in the midst of turmoil.

The peace that comes from being in a right relationship with God is not the peace of this world. The world’s peace depends on having favorable circumstances: if things are going well, then we feel peaceful; when things go awry, the peace quickly dissipates. Jesus made the distinction between His peace and the world’s vacillating peace: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives” (John 14:27).

God’s supernatural peace surpasses natural understanding. A cancer patient who experiences a remission of the disease may proclaim, “I am so thankful to God!” That is praise. A cancer patient who is dying and in pain may calmly say, “Everything is all right. I claim Romans 8:28, and I have peace in my heart.” That is “the peace that passes all understanding.” – End Source

Until next time… Maranatha!


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Candy Austin is an Ambassador for Christ/Christian Writer/Freelance ASL Interpreter, just passing through on this Narrow Path with her Beloved Husband and Best Friend Doug along with their 2 fur baby cats Harley (12) and Dallas (9).