Only One Time Won’t Hurt… :: by Candy Austin

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body” (1 Cor. 6:18; all scriptures KJV).

Younger generations these days tend to ask, “What is fornication?” the Biblical answer for fornication is when one has any sexual relations outside of marriage. As a young person seeking advice concerning this issue, it is important to inquire it from someone who will point you in the right direction – namely Godly, beneficial, and valuable advice according to GOD’S WORD!

Here is my testimony concerning this ‘now more than ever’ crucial topic! Back when I was 17 is when I had my first boyfriend. He was not a very good boyfriend because all he cared about was sex. Therefore, the subject of sex became front and center during that pivotal time in my life. I decided to inquire of a family member about this topic. Seeing how I trusted that this person loved and cared about me, I figured heeding their advice would not steer me in the wrong direction.

During this dialogue, I remember telling this family member that I wanted to wait until I was married before I had sex. While we were having this conversation, this family member was drinking their nightly bottle of Night Train at the time and proceeded to tell me that it would be ‘ok to have sex’ because “only one time won’t hurt”!

Not only did I find out that this was horrible advice, I also learned that it is virtually unrealistic for a person to have sex just one time! Worse than that, their unbiblical advice put my life in jeopardy in many ways! Not only was I at risk of teenage pregnancy, I could have acquired a STD; and more importantly, I was grieving the Holy Spirit! It took 2 and 1/2 years for me to finally repent of this grave sin, thanks to getting married to my now husband at a young age.

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor. 6:9-11).

My testimony was also given to my girls several times during their teen years, but somehow their ‘fear of the Lord’ was not enough to stop them from this sin either.

Once again, it blows me away to see the lack of concern for the consequences of this action or any sin for that matter! Sexual sin is a very serious issue and a huge vice for many! The Bible says every other sin is outside the body but sexual sin is sinning against one’s own body. Just like when one is raped, it not only affects the body, but the psyche and soul is violated as well! Sexual sin affects one in many ways and goes deeper beyond anything one could imagine. This is definitely a sin no one should take lightly!

“What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s” (1 Cor. 6:16-20).

Excerpts from “What makes sexual sin such a big deal?”

(I suggest reading the full article.)

Fortunately, man has never been given the privilege of defining sin. The one who created sexuality also has the right to set the boundaries for it, and the Bible is clear about the guidelines. When God created the first man, Adam, and brought to him the first woman, Eve, he joined them together in marriage and pronounced it “very good” (Genesis 1:31; 2:18, 24). At that time, God introduced sexuality and set the boundaries for its expression. God created a union between a husband and wife that he called “becoming one flesh” (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:8; Ephesians 5:31). He then defined any sexual activity outside of the husband-wife relationship as a violation of his gift. Fornication, homosexuality, pornography, and lust are all violations of God’s intent when he created the sexual act (1 Corinthians 6:9,18; Galatians 5:19-20; Jude 1:7; Matthew 5:28; Hebrews 13:4).

Sexual sin defiles more than just our physical bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18). It has spiritual significance. Almost every book of the Bible renounces sexual immorality, indicating that God considers it a grave sin. Committing sexual sin is directly opposed to God’s will to sanctify us (1 Thessalonians 4:3). source

So, for the younger generation seeking answers to this crucial topic that clearly affects one’s mind, body, and spirit, my advice is to look to GOD’S ADVICE! Always consult what the Lord has to say first and foremost in His Holy Word, and you will never go wrong. Lastly, do not listen to any unbiblical advice from anyone no matter how well-meaning you may think they are! Especially advice such as ‘it is ok to have sex’ because, “only one time won’t hurt”!

Until next time… Maranatha!

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