Without Natural Affection :: By Candy Austin

2 Timothy 3:1-4 KJV This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;”

What does it mean to be ‘Without Natural Affection’?

Definition Excerpt: Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance, without natural affection.

From a (as a negative particle) and a presumed derivative of stergo (to cherish affectionately); hard-hearted towards kindred  — without natural affection. – Source

Excerpts from Lakeway Baptist Church: Without Natural Affection

Today, even within the so-called best families, we don’t see the closeness and tender affection we saw in earlier generations. What we see is people who are disengaged, disregarded, disrespected, etc.; and pointing out the problem doesn’t seem to do any good—after all, how can you make people who don’t care start caring by telling them they don’t care? You can’t!

We prefer happiness to holiness, and we don’t have time or affection for those who don’t aid us in the pursuit of it. We are so in love with ourselves that we have no time for those who might distract us from our goal of pleasing self–even if that person is mom or dad, grandpa or grandma.

How is it that something natural becomes unnatural? Here’s the answer—without a doubt it is due to our failure to keep the first and great commandment—“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind”(Matt. 23:37). A failure here leads to a failure everywhere. If we don’t love God, who is perfect, we certainly won’t love others.

I pray that God will help you see that the absence of affection, a lack of love, is a serious sin–not a minor matter that we can dismiss as a mere short-coming, flaw, or fault. If you are without natural affection, something is seriously wrong in your life. It is so wrong that it should cause you to fall on your face before God and repent with bitter tears. Source

Let me start off by saying, in these Last Days, my husband and I find that we have become Despised and Rejected like our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST was when HE walked this Earth!  To be clear, there has been little to no ‘Natural Affection’ from most if not all of our relatives and family members for quite some time now.

Either by Jealousy from some because we live differently than they do, or by the Lies, Libel, and Slander from those who Refuse to take Responsibility for their Toxic, Abusive, and Rebellious actions, or more accurately by it boiling down to an Intense Spiritual Battle.

Either way, in these Last Days, we seem to have become adept at upsetting the ‘Fleshies.’ The term ‘Fleshies’ comes from the 1995 Casper Movie (back when we watched secular movies) where the ghosts called the living humans ‘Fleshies.’ In my humorous thought process when I think of that word from that movie long ago, I relate those who walk in the Spirit as the ‘Spiritual’ and those who walk in the Flesh as the ‘Fleshies.’

It has been about a decade since this Intense Spiritual Battle really started to heat up. Since then, we have seen the ‘Fleshies aka Those Without Natural Affection’ literally turn their backs on us at the drop of a hat, virtually out of nowhere! It has been a Mind, Heart, and Gut-Wrenching Pain like no other and a suffering that we would not wish on anyone. Like the epic saying goes, “Who needs Enemies when you have Family like that?!”

Here is my Testimony: About a month ago, I woke up one morning Praying in bed like I usually do because it is always about 3 or 4 a.m. This particular morning, I wanted to Pray for all my cousins on both sides. While I was Praying, I felt ABBA FATHER GOD Impress upon my Spirit to send them all a Gospel Tract and a Salvation Message Letter.

Note: Whenever I get these Impressions on my Spirit, it is like I am on a Mission, and I pretty much cannot stop until the Mission is completed!

So, I went ahead and got out of bed as soon as I was fully awake and went straight to work on the Mission ABBA FATHER gave me. First, the Salvation Message Letter seemed to type all by itself; second, the copies were printed; third, I had to find the addresses online; fourth, I proceeded to prep all the envelopes and affix them with Scripture stickers; fifth, I gathered up the Chick Tracts titled ‘The Only Hope’ (which has both the Gospel and Prophecy Message illustrated in it); sixth, I continued by meticulously stuffing and sealing the envelopes; and seventh, I completed my part of the Mission by putting the letters to the cousins in the mailbox!

I left off wondering if I would hear back from any of them. Surprisingly, or more like not surprisingly, here we are a month or so later and… ‘Crickets.’ Seriously… not one peep from not one Soul! (((WOW)))

Towards the bottom of this article is the copy of the letter I sent. Keep in mind this is clearly an Intense Spiritual Battle. Clues from social media show that most of them either do not go to church, or if they do, there is not a lot of evidence of the Fruit of the Spirit in their lives.

One can tell a lot about a person on social media by what they post.  If someone never mentions or posts anything about GOD, the BIBLE, SCRIPTURE, or the LORD JESUS CHRIST, then like JESUS said, “you will know them by their fruit.” Fruit like this points to the fact that they more than likely do not have a Genuine Relationship with CHRIST.

True Believers know that we are to be about our ‘FATHER’S BUSINESS’ – carrying out the Great Commission by sharing the Gospel everywhere we go. CHRIST Followers know that Christianity is not a ‘Closet Religion’ where we keep the Good News all to ourselves. We know that we are to be Salt and Light to a Lost and Dying World. GOD has given each of us Gifts to use to bring in Souls to further HIS Kingdom!

Therefore, what we can gather from said information is that most of them are living in Sin (Fornicating and not Married), one apparently has a Satanic bible, another has turned to Wicca, and many are Catholic but do not seem to attend church regularly. They are clearly more interested in going to bars instead.

So, my concern for their Salvation is genuine; and by the lack of any response, indicates to me that they do not want to hear about this topic. It blows me away to see so many unconcerned for where their Soul will go when they die.

Newsflash… this Life is temporary (a drop in the bucket) in comparison to Eternity (the whole ocean), and still they are going to live for the Here and Now and NOT for the Forever and Ever?!?!

Copy of The Salvation Message Letter:

Dear Cousin,

It has been put on my heart this morning to send this Message to all my cousins on both sides. I have been Praying for all Relatives and Family Members and their Salvation for years. It is my Prayer that if you are not Truly Born Again, that you would allow the Holy Spirit to move in your Mind and Heart to receive this today. If you are Truly Born Again and feel led to share this with your children or lost loved ones, feel free to do so.

And may GOD richly Bless you in bringing others into HIS KINGDOM.

Here’s the Message that was put on my Heart to share: Many think that when they die that they will go to Heaven because they were a ‘good person,’ but the Bible says no one is good, no not one.

Romans 3:10-12 “As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.”

The only way to GOD in Heaven is through JESUS CHRIST by Believing in his Death, Burial, and Resurrection on your behalf. Just saying one ‘believes’ is not enough, for the demons believe yet they are not saved.

James 2:19 “Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.”

We are Saved by Grace through Faith.

Ephesians 2:8-9 “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.”

Saved by GOD’S Grace through Saving Faith.

When one has Saving Faith, they have a Belief and Faith that Trusts and Obeys GOD’S WORD. Their Mind, Heart, and Life changes into wanting to please GOD and no longer in wanting to please ‘self’ (selfish desires). Repentance is to Change One’s Mind and Heart Away From Sin and See Their Need For GOD, and Turn Towards HIM for Salvation. No longer depending on ‘self’ (being good enough) but realizing we can never be good enough, and instead Trust in the Finished Work of CHRIST and HIS SHED BLOOD to Wash Away Our Sins to Save Us.

To be Truly Born Again and to have True Saving Faith in one’s life will manifest in a Changed Life. Your life will change, and you will no longer desire to live for ‘self,’ but your desire will change to Live for CHRIST by Obeying HIS WORD and carrying out the Great Commission by telling others the Good News of Salvation (Gospel Message).

1 Corinthians 15:1-4 “Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:”

Here is a Gospel Tract that I leave everywhere I go and have also sent different ones to various family members and friends over the years in hopes of bringing them to Salvation. Also here is a ‘childlike simple’ explanation of how to be Born Again called the…


A: ADMIT you are a sinner and have made mistakes and are in need of salvation.

B: BELIEVE that Jesus is God’s Son who died on the Cross for you and rose again from the grave on the third day.

C: CONFESS Jesus as the Lord of your life and commit yourself to a life of following Jesus and serving others.

I hope this Message that ABBA FATHER GOD put on my Heart to send is a Blessing to you. If you would like to keep in contact with me, here are my Ministry sites that can hopefully be a Blessing to you as well.



A Sister In Christ

YouTube Channel: All For Christ (Sign Language/Voice Ministry)

Instagram Ministry Page: ambassadorforchrist07

If I were to have received a letter like this in the mail from a Long-Lost Relative, I would have found it very Thoughtful and Touching! I would have wanted to write back right away and Thank that person for Caring enough about my Soul to send me something like that!

Sadly the ‘Fleshies’ will not have the Fruit of the Spirit (Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control) to be able to express Gratitude or have these kinds of Virtues. When one is Without Natural Affection, they will not have the Fortitude to reach out and connect with Loved Ones because they are unwittingly held captive by the Enemy to do his bidding.

The Devil does not want the Fleshies to become one of the Spiritual. The Enemy and his Minions will do all they can to keep the ‘Fleshies’ Spiritual Eyes blinded so that they cannot see the Light of GOD’S GLORIOUS GOSPEL until it is too late!

That is why this is such an Intense Spiritual Battle! We have to continue to Pray for their Salvation until we go HOME. Ultimately, just like in the case of our Prodigals, it is up to them to Believe in the Gospel. Either they Believe GOD’S WORD and want HIS offer of SALVATION or they do not. If they truly Believed, they would not be Without Natural Affection and they would display the Fruit of the Spirit in their Lives. Therefore, we would know them by their Fruit and be able to perceive that they are Genuinely Saved.

For now, all we have Seen and Experienced is Lawlessness, Lovelessness, Ill Treatment, and Hearts apparently Waxing Colder by the day, which obviously is not of GOD. To be Truly Born Again is a choice each of us must make before we step into Eternity.

Unfortunately, many seem to choose the Wide and Easy Road to Destruction instead of the Narrow and Difficult Path to Eternal Life. As an Ambassador For CHRIST who is about my FATHER’S BUSINESS, I admonish anyone who has not made this Important Eternal Decision to consider their Soul’s Ultimate Destiny and to please Choose Wisely!

Until next time… Maranatha!


*Ambassador For Christ in All I Do

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