Feb 6, 2017

Hello Esther,

I wrote you a few years ago. I had stated that I was having many issues with drug abuse (cocaine) and alcohol. I went on to say that I have a wonderful wife and two beautiful children. I also stated the strain that my lifestyle was having upon me and my family and relationship to God.

I would like to inform you that I have been drug free for almost three years. My wife and I have gone through Christian counseling and are gaining great ground. Gone are the days of feeling horrible, barely able to function and lying through my teeth to cover my bases on money spent on things I should not be buying.

I would like to take this opportunity to say thank you for all of your prayers, guidance and solid biblical advice. It has paid off. Thank you a million times. (Feel free to post this if you would like.)


Dear Brian,

I do remember you, well. In fact, I often wondered whatever happened to you and your family. The prayers from this end—that’s the easy part. The hard work was on your end, getting right with the Lord and taking the necessary steps to become the godly husband which you so much wanted for your marriage. I very much appreciate you contacting me with this wonderful update.

And thank you very much for your kind words of appreciation. I am so happy for you and your family. Few people follow through and get serious about changing their lives when problems, especially with drugs and alcohol are present in a person’s life. In fact, most people make excuses for themselves and/or blame others for their substance abuse, and wonder why they are not happy.

Much of the time many substance abusers don’t even think they have a problem and they think no sees what they are doing to themselves. My recollection about you is that in your letter you were sincerely concerned about your family, and serious about getting right with God and your marriage, etc. And you did it!

You can now be a role model for others who need to clean up their lives. You are living proof that nothing is impossible with God. (Luke 1:37). Your determination and sincere desire to live a life of authenticity will continue to reap many blessings for you and your family.

Once again, thank you so much for taking the time to share your good news with me. and our readers. Your thoughtfulness is very heartening. Keep up the good work. May the good Lord richly bless you for your faithfulness and for having the courage to let go of old bad habits and live a life of genuine repentance. Be sure to keep in touch now and then. I wish you and your family the very best.

I will close with some relevant Scripture for you to keep close to your heart:

“Wherefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature: the old things are passed away; behold, they are become new. But all things are of God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ, and gave unto us the ministry of reconciliation; to wit, that God was in Christ reconciling the world unto himself, not reckoning unto them their trespasses, and having committed unto us the word of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:17-19).

In God’s love,


Dear Esther,

My husband and I have five grandchildren between the two of us ranging in age from 10 to 18 years old. My three youngest grandchildren live with their Christian mother, so are attending church and living in a Christian home. My 17-year old grandson, and my husband’s, 18-year old grandson live in decidedly un-Christian homes. There is no Christian influence in their lives on a daily basis.

Both of these grandsons know we are Christians, and we try as often as possible to have an influence on them for the Lord, but we would like to do more, and aren’t sure how to reach them. The boys don’t want to go to church with us (one of them has a job which requires him to work every Sunday).

Even though we try to be as loving, giving, and supportive as possible, we know that this isn’t enough to make our grandsons desire to become Christians. The only thing I can think of is to sit down with each of the boys and be right to the point with them, telling them that if they died right now, they’d die in their sins and go to hell, and explain the gospel to them.

Do you have any ideas about how to approach this, or any ideas about how to reach these boys? It breaks our hearts to think of going to heaven without our grandchildren, but we just aren’t sure of the correct ways to try to reach them.

Thank you for any suggestions you might have.

Dear Becky,

Your problem is a common one, I am sorry to say. Of course we know that the upbringing and education of our children can have strong impact upon their beliefs. As believers, it is our job to share the salvation message, pray for the unsaved and reach our children as soon as possible.

Our great Advocate, the Lord Jesus Himself knows every last detail of your dilemma. If you have never actually shared the gospel with your unsaved grandchildren, it is important that you do so.
We live at a time when many people think that we have to use some sort of gimmick to reach others for the Lord. The best approach is what you mention, to speak to your grandchildren directly and lovingly straight from the Scriptures.

One thing I would strongly recommend is to use Bible prophecy to appeal to your grandsons. Show them Scriptures that point to some future prophecies and prophecies that have already been fulfilled. Most non-Christians think the Bible is just a book of myths.

There were over 300 Old Testament prophecies alone about the Messiah fulfilled by the life of Jesus Christ. Israel is very central to biblical prophecy. I would suggest doing your homework on prophecy if you need to so you and your husband will be able to show your grandsons directly in the Bible fulfilled prophecy and future prophecies.

Try to explain to them that we are living in the last days and that overall world conditions will continue to deteriorate. If they can begin to understand that Jesus is their great and only hope and not the ways of the world, they might start to think about how they are living their lives.

Especially study and share the books of Daniel, Jeremiah, Joel, Ezekiel, Matthew and Revelation. Once we share the salvation message in all sincerity, then we must continue to pray for our unsaved loved ones and then allow the Holy Spirit to His work on them.

At some point, each one of us had to make a decision for Christ. For some of us it was a quick, straightforward decision and for others it took many years. We must be patient with our unsaved loved ones, but at the same time stress that death can be a very imminent event. None of us know when we will take our last breath.

Each and every believer was unsaved at one time so there is great hope that your teenage grandsons will also get saved. Prayer is much more powerful than pleading and using other tactics. Once you deliver the salvation message and share some prophetic information continue to be vigilant in praying for your grandsons.

Becky, pray with all your heart that the Holy Spirit will touch your loved ones to open their hearts and minds to the truth of our Savior. One day your grandsons will thank you.

“The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” (James 5:16b).

God bless you,


“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen” (Ephesians 3:20-21).

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