Jan 16, 2017

Dear Esther,

My husband died earlier this year, and I keep hearing other widows talking about how they feel their husbands’ presence in their house and around them.

My husband’s sister told me today that my husband would “come to me” as soon as he was finished comforting her because she’s going through some heartbreak of her own, and that she could feel his presence very strongly.

I told her I’ve never felt his presence since he’s been gone, and she said that he’s already in my heart, just waiting for me to acknowledge him, and I should just tell him to come to me.

Nowhere in the Bible have I ever found any place where it says the Lord allows those who are with Him to come back to earth to visit or comfort us. If I ever did sense his presence, I’d probably be frightened and think it was a demon masquerading as my husband.

I’d love to feel my husband’s presence with me, but I don’t think that would be allowed to happen, and I don’t want to be deceived.

What do you think?


Missing Him

Dear Missing Him,

I am sorry for your loss; and I feel badly for you that you have to contemplate such an idea that is so far off from God’s Word. It sounds like your sister-in-law is very confused and/or deceived. I am glad you are being cautious. And the other women who say they feel the presence of their husbands is a bit disconcerting. Perhaps it is wishful thinking on their part or worse, they and your sister-in-law have opened themselves up to what the Bible calls “familiar spirits” (demonic spirits).

You are right, nowhere in the Bible does it say that the Lord allows those who are with Him to come back to earth to visit or comfort us. But there is plenty of evidence of demonic-backed visitations (“familiar spirits”) which we can find by studying the New Age Movement or more recently called, the New Spirituality.

For many decades we have been hearing about the increase of demonic activity veiled as “help” coming from the “spirit” world. Many people are oblivious to the dark forces that are coming from that spirit world (the underworld), all disguised as friendly spirits. This is why Christians must study their Bibles and learn about how Satan can appear as an angel of light (1 Corinthians 11:14).

The “light” New Agers are promoting is a false, demonic light. Demons and Satan can appear as beautiful, friendly “light” beings. That is how they get people confused and opened up to false doctrines. Spiritual deception has become an epidemic affecting people in all walks of life.

Some Christians who are not well-versed in Scripture can also become victims of the devil’s entrapments. The Bible, and more particularly, the Old Testament is filled with verses warning of familiar spirits which are nothing less than demonic entities.

Toward the end of the seven-year Tribulation, the spiritual deception will be so great that God will destroy the rebuilt city of Babylon where the one-world church (Mystery Babylon the Great also called the Mother of Harlots) will have its headquarters. It will be destroyed in one day (Revelation 18:8). And in one hour Babylon’s riches will be totally destroyed (Revelation 18:17-19).

We are living in the time of the apostasy heading toward the Tribulation years, and as believers we must be very careful not to involve ourselves with anything to do with the occult. Satan is a very insidious foe and can do many things to entice people to fall into his spiritual death traps. It sounds like your sister-in-law is in great need of studying the Scriptures. Especially, Scriptures that clearly show that any type of attention given to the occult is dangerous.

The devil will take advantage of situations when people are most vulnerable. The New Age (occult) teachings and false religious systems are nothing less than harbingers of spiritual fraud and portals to the abyss. Countless people are involved in some sort of “spirituality.” But a large majority of them derive their religious beliefs without ever having studied the Bible in its proper context—in its entirety. That is wherein the danger lies. Without biblical knowledge a person can be led astray.

One of the cruelest lies I have ever heard is when one of these psychic channelers claim to be communicating with a dead relative. This is a perfect example of one of the devil’s ploys to get people to believe all is well on the “other side” with or without the God of the Bible. Demonic beings victimize grieving families.

They pose as dead loved ones and the demonically empowered vessel—the psychic channeler, is conveniently used to tell present lies. Satan has plenty of power, and his goal is to fool people into believing there is no need for Jesus Christ’s free gift of salvation. Dead loved ones cannot speak to people from the “other side.” The Bible is very clear on this.

From the moment Lucifer (Satan) rebelled against God trying to usurp Him, and then subsequently cast out of heaven along with his demonic pawns (fallen angels), the conflict between God and Satan has been going full force. There is a distinct difference between the light of God and the powers of darkness who pose as “light.”

New Age teachers dilute the powers of darkness with their corrupt teachings, offering themselves up to the wiles of the devil. They presume human interaction with what appears to be friendly forces is a trustworthy foundation for truth. The only true light that exists is the living God of the Bible.

New Age ideology is always presented in a way as to appeal to our humanity: to love one another, to help one another, to grow together for the good of everyone. But through that attractive door, heretical sinister teachings are introduced and exploited. Those involved in New Age teachings and false religions worship gods of their own design. For example, they often consider the “universe” a god, a supreme power.

Did you know that a familiar spirit in the Bible—in other words, a demonic entity, backed up by the devil is called a genie by the false religion of Islam? Even Muslims say that evil genies are said to “lead humans astray.” In Arabic, Satan is known as Iblis, the iconic “genie.”

If your sister-in-law is not a believer, then this would be a good time to share the gospel with her and also point out the truths about spiritual deception. Show her Scriptures in the Bible, and explain to her that we are living at the time of the apostasy (the falling away from the faith).

“Let no one in any way deceive you, for it will not come unless the apostasy comes first, and the man of lawlessness [Antichrist] is revealed, the son of destruction” (2 Thessalonians 2:3).

Here are some important Scriptures that you can share with her:

“But the Spirit saith expressly, that in later times some shall fall away from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of demons” (1 Timothy 4:1).

“For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance to their own desires, and will turn away their ears from the truth and will turn aside to myths” (2 Timothy 3-4).

“But there were also false prophets among the people, even as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Lord who bought them, and bring on themselves swift destruction. And many will follow their destructive ways, because of whom the way of truth will be blasphemed. By covetousness they will exploit you with deceptive words; for a long time their judgment has not been idle, and their destruction does not slumber” (2 Peter 2:1-3).

“Ye therefore, beloved, knowing these things beforehand, beware lest, being carried away with the error of the wicked, ye fall from your own stedfastness” (2 Peter 3:17).

If your sister-in-law will not accept what you have to say, then you may have to keep your interaction with her to a minimum. Our prayers are so important, especially when trying to reach those who are closed to the truth. But be sure to tell her that the “comforting” that she is feeling cannot be your husband, and that she is being deceived.

Pray carefully for guidance before approaching her, and regardless of how she responds, be loving and kind but tell her in no uncertain terms that you will not participate with her in this charade.

Thank you for sharing your story, and I wish you and your family the very best.

In God’s love,


“Turn ye not unto them that have familiar spirits, nor unto the wizards; seek them not out, to be defiled by them: I am Jehovah your God” (Leviticus 19:31).

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