To our valuable Dear Esther Readers,
As many of you know, I only post and respond to one letter a week, and also try to keep in touch with so many of you via email. You are all important to me, and I do appreciate your patience when it takes some time for me to respond to each concern. This week I would like to share some email correspondence I had over a period of time with a very nice lady regarding an unpleasant work situation.
I am sharing this interchange to encourage all of you that no matter how unfair or bleak a situation may be, the Lord Jesus does care so very much about each one of you.
I also want to thank all of you for your participation and for being part of this ministry. You are all a great blessing to Rapture Ready and to me, personally, and we could not be so successful without all of you. When our Lord calls us up to heaven with that “shout,” it will be so wonderful to be together and share in God’s promise of Glory.
In the meantime, we will continue to encourage one another. When we reach out to others who so very much need to know the Lord Jesus, our own problems are not so impossible; it helps keep things in perspective. When we give to others our own problems are tempered.
From the many letters I received just this week alone, I would like to say we must keep our eyes on the big picture—our eternal future, and not let ourselves get so distracted by worldly matters that can, if we let them, quickly steal our joy. We will always have problems in this life, how we handle them is the key to peace of mind. We should “press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus”(Philippians 3:14). .
In this great country we have so much to be grateful for. We should never take anything for granted, and that includes the warm beds in which we sleep or the food we have to eat. So many of our Christian brothers and sisters are being brutally persecuted around the world.
Our prayers are so important; God honors our prayers and our faithfulness. The cup-half full is a much better attitude than dwelling on the “lack” in our lives. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us” (Philippians 4:13). That said, here is the correspondence I would like to share (a praise report as you will see).
I read your column every week and I appreciate the good, solid, biblical advice that you give to those who write to you. I have a question regarding if I should put the last manager that I had at my previous job when I fill out job applications.
I worked at a Christian university for the past 8 years and I had several managers during my time there. Most of my time there, it was a wonderful place to work. I did my job to the best of my ability and got good performance reviews from previous managers and did not receive any complaints about my work.
However, the last year I worked there was difficult due to a manager that my position was moved to. She did not communicate with me or the rest of her staff very much and closed her office door for part of the work day. She did not know everything that I did and admitted to me that she did not want to know.
When performance review time came around, she gave me bad reviews that were not based on the truth and I let her know that. I prayed about the situation while searching for jobs. The situation escalated when she reported to our new Director that I said something to a co-worker in a rude manner.
I was shocked when my Director told me this and I wanted to make things right with my co-worker so I asked my co-worker about it. My co-worker had no idea what I was talking about. I immediately went to my Director and told him this and my Director thanked me for letting him know.
With my husband’s blessing, I resigned from my position this past April because I had a strong feeling that I was going to be fired. I worked hard up to my last day of work because I wanted to leave on a good note.
The time I’ve been away has been good because I’ve been able to complete projects around the house and I’ve been able to help my mother with things around her house. I have continued to look for a new job and I’ve gotten a few interviews, but no new job yet.
Whenever I fill out job applications and they ask for a supervisor, I think that I need to put the last manager I had, but my husband thinks that I should put down another manager because he was my manager for a longer period of time, and he knew what I did much better. I feel that I’m being dishonest and not pleasing God if I don’t put my last manager on a job application. Any advice you can give is greatly appreciated.
Thank you for your time and attention!
God Bless You!
Thank you for reading my column…
I am with your husband on this one. The manager who was not in your corner would be detrimental to your future. From what you say, it sounds like the woman is a cold-hearted dishonest person. It is very sad when such dynamics go on amongst Christians. But it happens more than we would like to know. You would be doing nothing wrong by not using her name. In fact, dear lady, it would be a great mistake if you did.
Now as you continue to seek employment, please keep giving it all over to the Lord. Pray that He will guide you to the right situation and that the unfair manager will not be an issue. I have a feeling you will be able to get a great job based on your warm personality, your professionalism and genuineness.
God is not mocked and when professing Christians treat others with great disrespect, slander them and try to undermine them, then those individuals will be held accountable before God. You don’t have to do anything. God has a way working things out and dealing with the phonies. Now I am assuming the woman is a professing Christian since you worked at a Christian college. But if not, then she will still pay a great price.
I am in YOUR corner. Trust the Lord with all your heart and know that He has something much better for your future than what you left behind at the college. In fact, count it a blessing that you are no longer in that unpleasant situation.
Please let me know how things work out for you!
In God’s love,
(Romans 8:28; Jeremiah 29:11)
Thank you so much for your advice and kind words!
I will certainly continue to pray and give this to the Lord and definitely not put the unpleasant manager on any job applications that I complete in the future.
I was concerned that my not putting her on them would not be pleasing to the Lord and I want to please Him most of all.
I greatly appreciate your fast response since I’m sure you get a lot of emails from fellow Christians with bigger problems.
I will certainly let you know how things work out!
God Bless You!!
Your Sister in Christ,
Hello Dear Esther!
Thank you so much for your reply last year and your wonderful advice! It really helped me as I searched for new employment and I referred to it often. I apologize for my late update, but I want to let you know that the Lord provided a new job and it is perfect for me. As a matter of fact, I got a promotion a few months after I started and I will be at my new company for a year on November 30th.
I give God all the glory! God is good!!
All the best to you and your family and I will certainly keep reading your wonderful column!
(No Longer Discouraged)
Dear No Longer Discouraged,
I am so happy to hear from you and even more pleased to see how the Lord has turned a challenging situation, and one of uncertainty—into a major blessing. What a great God we serve.
I think your positive attitude and focusing on His promises had a lot to do with the happy outcome. You walked forward in faith and God opened the right door for you. Thank you for letting me know how well you are doing. Never hesitate to reach out, and I will do my best to get back to you. May God continue to bless you and yours.
In God’s love,
“‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’”